Oh thank god. His sexual oversharing was REALLY creeping me out. Not sure how much was him actually being creepy or my reaction to it being him rather than someone I like/whose relationship I respect, but ugh.
yeah, I had just been reading the thread where chicken asked for a perma (I assumed jokingly) in response to his post and I don’t think I’ve ever been happier to perform a moderator function when I saw his request.
It takes a special talent to come into a thread where jess is talking about taking dumps while her ex showered and make it too personal, but he did it.
Glad it’s not just me - I really wanted to PM him to fuck off. I took great pleasure in contradicting his “gov is SRS and doesn’t care about interests on your resume post” (yes that I find this satisfying is probably a sign of the character flaws leading me to law).
I didn’t catch that but damn I’m ok with whatever with that guy even if those are sincerely held beliefs. My sincerely held belief is that he’s a jackass.
The “charitable” (read: internally consistent) view might be that one of his coworkers does drugs and he’s hoping that the dude gets caught on a second test. More likely, he’s just a hypocrite piece of shit if he’s not a troll.
Hey guys. Not really sure where to put this, but wanted to give a heads up/explanation where I’ve been/where I’m going.
I’m back and will try to be a consistent moderator presence if a bit less on the regular poster front.
This is super confidential, but DR asked for a divorce. It’s not final but needless to say it’s not looking good for our marriage and I’m a bit of a mess. There’s no great crime on either person’s part in any of this but it’s just a cluster fuck of awful. We have talking to do and I’ve got therapy and it’s just a long nightmare road ahead in general.
TLS is and has been a place of support and I’m gonna be here helping out and reading even if I’m not megaposting like crazy as much.
And don’t worry about modding. If it’s helpful to you of course hang out here and ban spammers and fools, but don’t feel obligated when you have other stuff to deal with.
Cap, I am so sorry to hear this. Tend to what needs tending in your life, and please know that my internet “ear” is always here if you need it. There was a time in my marriage when I was ready to call it quits, so I may understand a little bit of what you two are going through.
It’s all right guys. We’ve agreed to a separation and I’m hopeful we can work things out during that time. I’ve been hitting the gym and running like crazy, trying to be the best dad I can be, and just being supportive for DR as we go through this. Maryland requires a one year waiting period minimum before divorce so if I’m my best me and she still wants one, then nothing I can do.
Sucks but I’m getting life back on track and DR and I are on fine terms (she just doesn’t want to be married to me anymore). Self-centered-pity-party over!